I am interested and devoted to all things from the continent of Africa. I find myself watching video after video on youtube concerning all things African. I love to watch videos about the different cultures, languages, practices. I get knowledge from travel vlogs, documentaries, and videos from native Africans speaking about their home. This book is exactly what I needed. It shined a light on to a ritual that is merely male serving and evil. I learned about the ritual servitude/slavery that is trokosi last year and it broke my heart. These rituals always seem to involve a girl/woman giving her very life for the idea of luck or idea of being able to evade bad luck. It gives those that practice this ritual the idea that the sacrifice of someone’s life for the betterment of others is the only way to stop the so-called ‘bad luck’. To me, sacrifice is a personal commitment, not the idea of offering up another person’s life. Sacrifice your OWN life. It’s always interesting to me when people think they can romance karma’s retreat. This book takes you on a journey to see how this practice trokosi ravished lives but at the same time helped others find their purpose. This is a story about forgiveness. This is also a story about pure evil left unchecked. This is a story about the centuries of hatred toward black girls/women bodies and how they are used as footstools in many cultures. This is also a story about how your very own family can be the authors of your darkest hour.
Trokosi is mainly practiced in Ghana, Benin, and Togo. Aside from being a black woman who has given birth to a black girl, learning about this practice personally touches me because these countries are in my DNA. Benin, Togo, and Ghana show up being the highest percentages in my DNA makeup according to ancestrydna.com. I can’t help but wonder if any of my ancestors shared similar experiences as the young girls in this book. Ms. McFadden did a great job describing the mind of a young child and how evil creeps in to shift their perception forever. She shines a light on how lies, even little white ones, can destroy someone’s entire world. The theme of guilt is very strong in this story as well. You are able to see how everyone seemed to carry guilt in different ways. She captured the purest heart of a child. Tears were shed. Tears were shed not just due to the pain displayed but also the hope you will find in this book. If you are triggered by the mistreatment of children/women, approach this book while giving yourself self-care and take your time.
I believe in life and all that represents. I’m not really sure if I believe in bad luck or good luck. I won’t deny often wondering if this so-called bad luck has taken hold over parts of my life. However, I believe life and bad/good luck should not be used interchangeably. Life can often look like tides at sea. Sometimes gifts are brought in through the tide and other times hard lessons. Its ever moving, ever changing, ever evolving. It is up to us to constantly adjust to how we react to said life. Sometimes there are calming ripples and other times the waves of life will try to rip you apart. Yet, you still manage to find a reason to smile in the midst of it all. This is a story about how Abeo’s life was turned upside down because life happened and someone else decided she had to pay with her innocence. It’s touching, honest, and painful. It’s all the things life is made of.
so, I really wanted to like “she’s gotta have it” on Netflix. but, I should have known I wouldn’t like it because I hated the movie. the corniness of spike lee’s satire and his over the top approach concerning serious topics has always rubbed me the wrong way. all the men are totally ridiculous. they all gave me gay vibes and it was so distracting watching them do ‘i love pussy’ gymnastics trying to be convincing. greer? mars? mars, my G?? come on now. who would even believe that craziness?! not I! the writing was painful. the acting? look, Dewanda Wise is frikkin’ awesome to me and she is absolutely stunning. she did the best she could with the material she was given. i made it to episode 3.
in conclusion: I hated it!
1 star out of 5
The narrator of this story is not human. The story is about an alien who is given the assignment to get rid of mathematical information discovered by a human, Professor Andrew Martin. On his quest to dispose of the threatening information he makes a detour into the life of a human being. He has sort of an out of body experience while living the life of a human. You are taken on the journey where he eventually finds beauty, love, and confusion in human life on earth.
The writing is heartfelt and so relatable even though they are the words of an alien. You find yourself laughing out loud, sighing, and having ah-ha moments. It was fun to experience life through an outside source. It caused me to question why we think the way that we do. There are many quotable moments in this book that gave me pause. Quotes, like:
“To be healthy meant to be covered. Clothed. Literally and metaphorically.”
“Some humans not only liked violence but craved it, I realized. Not because they wanted pain, but because they already had pain and wanted to be distracted from that kind of pain with a lesser kind.”
“Love was a way to live forever in a single moment, and it was also a way to see yourself as you had never actually seen yourself, and made you realize –having done so–that this view was a more meaningful one than any of your previous self perceptions and self deceptions.”
By relating to this alien I felt less weird for feeling like I’m not doing well at being a human. Matt Haig captured the feelings of loneliness and wanting to belong very well. I found his philosophies interesting while disagreeing with others. All and all I couldn’t put this book down.
I copped this book from the library. I plan on buying my own copy because there are so many quotes I want to keep and I may even read this one again. If you are interested in love stories, you will love this book. I give it 5 out of 5 stars. I can’t stop thinking about it.
I really had high hopes for this book. When I discovered that this book was coming out some time last year, I was both disappointed and intrigued. This book appealed to me because I had this deep desire to write about a woman who could control sound. Sound is a sensitive topic for me and I get very passionate about those around me who are abusive with sound. I guess I still can continue to do so. This book is not about being able to control sound. The story is about a young lady regaining her hearing among a village of people who have all lost their hearing. She goes on a quest to find answers and to save the people in her village. I just didn’t enjoy this one like I thought I would. The ending was very slow. Turning the pages became harder and harder toward the end of the book. I probably should have given it a 2 out of 5 stars. But, I gave this book 3 stars out of 5 because it just didn’t have a strong story to go along with the hype. It took me almost a month to read this book and it’s only two hundred and something pages. It may have something to do with me and my inability to read fast especially when I’m not into the story.
Rated: 3 out of 5 stars.